Your biggest wedding planning questions, answered by industry experts

Pop the Champagne—you’re planning a wedding! If you’re here, you’ve likely moved beyond the just-engaged excitement and into the part where you’re wondering how to plan a wedding. 

Over the last few weeks, we asked our community to submit what they’ve been wondering most about when planning their big day. No question too big or too small! And to help answer those questions, we brought together a group of trusted industry experts—planners, photographers, florists, designers, and stylists—to share their wedding planning tips. From destination wedding logistics and dress timelines to floral budgets, RSVP etiquette, and wedding trends for 2026, you asked—and they answered. 

In a recent blog post, we covered the early groundwork: building your guest list, setting priorities, and beginning to frame your timeline. This next chapter gets deeper into the details. Think of this Q&A as your expanded planning circle: thoughtful perspective, insider knowledge, and practical wedding planning advice you can refer back to as you plan your big day. 

Meet the experts 

This group of industry leaders spans the full spectrum of wedding planning: luxury planners, globally recognized florists, renowned bridal designers, celebrated photographers, and vintage bridal curators. They’ve planned destination weddings, dressed red carpets, designed White House florals, and documented love stories around the world. Here’s who you’ll be hearing from:

Monique Lhuillier, Founder & Creative Director of Monique Lhuillier (International) 

With nearly 30 years in the industry, Monique is known for her refined bridal aesthetic and has dressed everyone from leading actresses and musicians to first ladies. She’s also a Paperless Post design partner, with a collection of elegant, romantic invitations perfect for modern brides. 

Bronson van Wyck, Co-Founder & CEO of Van Wyck & Van Wyck (New York, NY & Charleston, SC)   

An internationally renowned event planner, Bronson creates some of the world’s most imaginative and memorable celebrations, distinguished by a signature style that blends wit and sophistication with the gracious warmth of his Southern upbringing.

Chenai Bukutu, Founder & Lead Planner of ByChenai Events (London, UK) 

An internationally recognized luxury wedding planner, Chenai has been named one of the world’s top wedding planners by Harper’s Bazaar.

Elle Wildhagen, Co-Founder & Lead Photographer of Kindred (New York, NY) 

Known for an analog-driven, editorial approach, Elle’s photography has been featured in The New York Times and Vogue.

Lily Kaizer, Owner & Vintage Bridal Expert of Happy Isles Salon (New York, NY & Los Angeles, CA) 

A pioneer in luxury vintage bridal, Lily curates rare, one-of-a-kind gowns for fashion-forward brides.

Molly Ford, Founder & Floral Designer of Flowers by Ford (Brooklyn, NY)

Molly’s fashion-forward arrangements blend elegance with playful detail, and she has created work for global brands including Celine, Mejuri, Sezane, and Longchamp.

Augusta Cole, Founder & Planner of Augusta Cole (New York, NY & Charleston, SC) 

Known for producing immersive multi-day destination weddings and intimate celebrations alike, Augusta’s firm has been recognized by Vogue and Over the Moon.

Emily Thompson, Founder & Floral Designer of Emily Thompson Flowers (New York, NY) 

A sculptor-turned-floral artist, Emily’s dramatic, nature-driven installations have appeared at The White House and other major cultural events, including E! News coverage of the Met Gala red carpet.

Your questions, answered  

Here’s everything you’ve been wondering about, along with wedding expert advice straight from the pros. Let’s dive in with their predictions for 2026 weddings. Our experts are noticing a move toward celebrations that feel more personal, more immersive, and less bound by tradition. Think of these predictions as a spark of inspiration—ideas to keep in mind as you consider your engagement party theme, wedding invitation design, and overall aesthetic direction. 

Do you have any predictions for 2026 weddings or brides?

“We’ve definitely seen a resurgence of interest in city weddings! More couples are drawn to a city moment, with London, Paris, New York, Florence, and Mexico City topping the list.”  – Augusta Cole, planner 

 

“More and more, brides will want to have a less traditional wedding, and instead, a celebration that genuinely reflects who they are as a couple.”  – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

“Couples are moving toward more documentary-style photography, deeply personal fashion choices, and smaller guest lists paired with longer, more immersive weekends.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer 

 

“I’m seeing a lot of sculptural elements in 2026 design decks with food, floral, and moss installations that feel like art pieces.”  – Molly Ford, florist

 

Planning with purpose

As you plan your wedding, Paperless Post’s built-in tools can help organize the details. Ask your guests questions when they RSVP so you can record their meal preferences and dietary restrictions. You can also add a Schedule Block to your event page so guests know exactly where they need to be and when. Keeping track of the details in one place lets you focus on what matters most: creating a meaningful, enjoyable day for you and your loved ones.

In this section, we’re covering questions to ask your wedding planner, with guidance on both the big-picture logistics and the small, often-overlooked details that make the day feel effortless. 

 

Where is it worth splurging vs. saving if you’re planning a smaller, more intimate wedding?

“Guests will always remember how they were made to feel and looked after. I’d advise focusing on food, beverage, and entertainment.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner 

“Catering and photography are absolutely worth the splurge. Décor can be simple and still stunning. However, if your guests are enjoying a delicious meal and you have timeless photos to remember the day, you’re set.” – Molly Ford, florist

 

“Save on things that exist purely for optics or anything that doesn’t contribute to comfort or connection. Intimate weddings are about depth, not spectacle.” – Bronson van Wyck, planner

 

I’m planning an international/destination wedding—how do I find local vendors?

“Working with a professional wedding planner will ensure your suppliers are vetted, trusted, and can deliver. If you are planning the wedding yourself, I’d recommend using wedding vendor directories as a starting point. For example, La Lista for Italy, and Coco Wedding Venues for the UK and Europe.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner

 

What is the ideal timeline to follow on my wedding day?

“Working backwards from the end of the day helps to focus and prioritise. Speak to your vendors as well to get their input on how much time is needed for food service and set up.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner

 

“For well-rounded photography, the ceremony and cocktail hour should ideally occur before sunset, and we love the transition from day to night in the dinner and dancing space. When the timeline is designed with intention, rather than tradition, the celebration feels more personal, and at most times, more enjoyable.” – Augusta Cole, planner

 

“The best weddings feel alive and immersive, like the party is unfolding organically. A perfect timeline is an optical illusion—structured enough to support the evening, but invisible enough to allow room for genuine fun.” – Bronson van Wyck, planner

 

What are the small details that couples often forget about, but that actually make a big difference?

“We always recommend building in extra transition timing so the weekend never feels inherently rushed. A little breathing room allows everyone, especially the couple, to stay present and soak in the celebration.” – Augusta Cole, planner

 

“Buffer time, good natural light in getting-ready spaces, and how things feel on your body (shoes, fabrics, hairpieces) all matter more than people expect. These details shape the energy of the day and quietly influence how relaxed and present you feel.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer

 

“If you aren’t working with a planner, then ensure you have assigned a trusted (and willing) person to be a point of contact on the day for vendors.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner

 

“There can be a lot of pressure, but carving out softer moments to truly enjoy yourself is essential. You deserve to enjoy the day you’ve spent months planning and investing in.” – Molly Ford, florist 

 

I’m doing plated meals, and I have a few guests with dietary restrictions. Do I need to accommodate those with my caterer?

“Communicating dietary restrictions and allergies in advance is essential so guests feel both safe and thoughtfully cared for. Most caterers are well accustomed to accommodating these needs, but we also recommend noting where those guests are seated to ensure everything is seamless on the day.” – Augusta Cole, planner

 

“Without question. True hospitality means your guests feel completely cared for and at ease. They’ve invested time, energy, and resources to celebrate with you; the least you can do is ensure they’re thoughtfully and properly nourished.” – Bronson van Wyck, planner 

 

Defining your wedding style 

Defining your wedding style is often one of the most exciting parts of the planning process—but it can also feel surprisingly complex. A cohesive aesthetic doesn’t happen by accident. It begins with clarity: understanding the mood you want to set and carrying that vision through every touchpoint—from your engagement party invitations and save the dates to your wedding invitations, event décor, and overall guest experience. Here, our experts share guidance on choosing colors, refining your style, and weaving personal or cultural elements into your celebration. 

 

Do you have any advice on choosing wedding colors or a theme?

“Moodboard first. Ask yourself: What themes am I noticing from these images that attract me? Is it a specific color? Is it a feeling (ethereal romance, moody and gothic, artful DIY, simple and fresh, preppy with a twist) or is it location-based (like Italian citrus vibes, or wildflowers in the mountains, or tropical)? Then, when making aesthetic choices, you can always refer back to your base concept.” – Lily Kaizer, vintage bridal expert 

 

“Don’t be afraid of color! Color sets the tone for your wedding and reflects your personal style. There are no rules. Go with what makes you happy, and you can’t go wrong.” – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

“Most importantly, choose something you genuinely love, not just something trending on Instagram or Pinterest. Trends fade, but authenticity never does.” – Molly Ford, florist 

 

Do you have any recommendations on how a bride or groom can incorporate nods to their culture into their wedding looks or programming?

“Subtle touches often feel the most powerful, whether that’s through clothing, jewelry, music, or family traditions woven into the day. These elements don’t need explanation—they simply need intention.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer

 

“Often, brides will add custom embroidery to the veil or introduce a color that signifies a connection to their heritage. Wedding looks are very symbolic; they’re not just fashion choices, but also a visual statement of identity, family, and legacy.” – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

“From a programming perspective, you could incorporate music, dance, or readings that are culturally relevant. Food is also a wonderful way to celebrate your culture, and you get to introduce it to your friends who may not have experienced it before.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner  

 

Finding the dress(es) 

 

For many couples, attire is one of the most personal decisions of the entire planning process. Beyond the ceremony look, there are often multiple wardrobe moments to consider—engagement parties, bridal showers, welcome dinners, rehearsal events, and after-parties—all of which contribute to the overall narrative of your celebration. From statement gowns to vintage finds to modern tailoring, our experts share practical guidance on building a wardrobe that feels cohesive, intentional, and entirely your own.

 

When should a newly-engaged bride start shopping for her dress?

“Start early and give yourself plenty of time to find the perfect dress. You immediately see an inner glow when the bride finds the dress that makes them feel beautiful, confident, and above all, the best version of themselves on their special day!” – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

“Venue first. Dress shopping second. Percolate on a theme as you shop, and it will all come together.” – Lily Kaizer, vintage bridal expert

 

I’m overwhelmed with the wedding dress options out there, and can’t figure out my “style.” Where/how should I start?

“Start with a moodboard and add ideas that inspire you—whether it be a wedding destination, a mood, or a celebrity bridal gown. Once your moodboard comes together, it will reveal your inner voice and what speaks to you!” – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

“The most important element in choosing a dress is just that you have to be absolutely in love with it. You’ll always have fond memories of having picked something that felt uniquely you.” – Lily Kaizer, vintage bridal expert

 

I’m debating whether I should have an after-party dress for my wedding—is it worth it?

“I’m big on a second dress. I always recommend brides change for the ‘cut-the-cake’ moment and beyond. A fun, short, or sparkly new look signals to your guests that the party has only just begun!” – Lily Kaizer, vintage bridal expert

 

What should I wear to my engagement party / bridal shower / post-wedding brunch?

“For an engagement party, I love a dress that’s glamorous and elevated—a little bit of sparkle to make you feel extra celebratory. Bridal showers and brunches offer a moment to embrace romantic details like soft colors and sheer fabrics. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful and happy. You want your confidence to radiate as you move through the room and interact with guests.” – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

Taking photos 

Your wedding photos will outlast the cake, the florals, and even the dress. They are the record of how the day felt—not just how it looked. That’s why thoughtful collaboration with your photographer is so important. From deciding when to schedule portraits to understanding how to feel comfortable in front of the camera, small adjustments can make a meaningful difference. 

If you’re sending invitations with Paperless Post, consider adding a Photo Gallery Block to your event page to share engagement photos, or use one on your wedding thank you cards to give guests a first look at the snapshots from your big day. It’s a simple way to keep everyone feeling connected to your celebration.

Here’s how our experts answered a few key questions to ask a wedding photographer: 

 

My partner and I aren’t the most confident when it comes to taking photos. Any tips on how to make sure we capture the day’s memories without the added pressure?

“Choose a photographer who doesn’t over-direct and creates space for you to interact naturally. You don’t need to perform—the best images happen when you feel comfortable enough to forget the camera is there.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer

 

 

When should I take photos on my wedding day? Before or after the ceremony?

“A first look often allows for a calmer, more relaxed flow, while portraits after the ceremony can carry heightened emotion—it’s really about what energy you want to hold onto.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer

 

“Take advantage of daylight before the ceremony. This allows you to capture beautiful portraits without racing dwindling daylight or rushing to get to cocktails and the reception. A first look with all family and bridal party photos is a great solution for the couple who wants to prioritize time with their guests immediately following the ceremony.” – Augusta Cole, planner 

 

As a type A bride, is it too much to provide a photographer with a shot list?

 

“A family formal list is incredibly helpful, but for documentary moments, trust your photographer. Sharing who matters most and any sensitive dynamics will lead to more meaningful images than a long checklist ever could.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer

 

Arranging flowers 

Whether you’re envisioning abundant installations or refined, minimalist arrangements, understanding how floral design works can help you thoughtfully allocate your floral budget. Let’s dive in with questions to ask a wedding florist, including useful tidbits about common misconceptions and strategic ways to approach choosing your wedding flowers. 

 

 

What are affordable ways to do flower decorations?

“Local and seasonal flowers are always more budget-friendly. Lean into the season and the region where you’re getting married—your florist can often work with local farmers to secure better pricing.” – Molly Ford, florist 

 

“Using plants can be a wonderful way to achieve scale with smaller budgets, and they can be added to the garden after the party. Not everything has to have a pop of color.” – Emily Thompson, florist

 

“Focus on high-impact or statement moments rather than trying to do a smattering of blooms here and there. One statement floral installation will create a great backdrop rather than trying to stretch flowers into every area of the wedding.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner 

 

What’s one thing couples should know before working with a wedding florist? 

“One of the best ways to streamline the process is to clearly communicate your budget upfront. This saves time and allows you to focus your energy on vendors who align with your expectations.” – Molly Ford, florist

 

“Flowers are very unpredictable! They are living entities that react to the weather, to temperatures, to their human handlers, and they change over seasons, over minutes and hours.” – Emily Thompson, florist 

 

Sending invitations 

This stage of planning brings practical questions about timing and guest management: wedding plus-one etiquette, how to follow up about RSVPs, and how to keep everyone in the loop. Whether you’re considering digital invitations, printed formats, or a combination of both, understanding the basics can make the process feel much more manageable.

With Paperless Post, you can customize invitations to reflect your style, or work with our Personal Design Services team to adjust existing designs or create completely bespoke illustrations. Our built-in tools make managing RSVPs and communicating with guests easier than ever. Use pre-written templates, filter recipients by response status, and even schedule reminders to go out automatically.

Before you start designing or sending invites, let’s hear from our experts on the questions couples ask most about wedding invitation etiquette. 

 

What should I consider when choosing my invitations/invitation suite?

 

“The invitation suite will set the tone for what’s to come and will prompt guests to officially confirm their attendance.” – Augusta Cole, planner 

 

“It’s the first impression guests will receive of your wedding. Your wedding event stationery is a great way to give guests a sense of what to expect and get them excited for the celebrations.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner 

 

“It should feel cohesive with the location and overall design. Establish your aesthetic first, then let that language carry through paper, typography, and tone.” – Bronson van Wyck, planner 

 

I really want to use digital invitations for my wedding, but I know some of my older family members won’t properly receive them. Do you have advice on how to communicate with those family members?

“Digital invitations are a great option for efficiency and design flexibility, but it’s important to meet your guests where they are. For family members or friends who might struggle with email or online RSVPs, we recommend following up personally, so everyone feels included.” – Augusta Cole, planner

 

“If they’re important enough to invite, they’re important enough to make a little extra effort for. Call them, walk them through how to access the invitation—it’s a lovely excuse to catch up.” – Bronson van Wyck, planner

 

How far in advance should my invitations be sent out for my wedding shower and actual wedding?

“If you are planning 1 year out, aim to send your invitations no later than 5-6 months from the wedding date. I advise sharing save the dates to give people time to check their calendars and organize their travel plans. Give yourself a decent amount of time between the two events—a wedding shower invite can be sent 2-3 months ahead.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner

 

Who gets a plus-one?

“Anyone who would feel more comfortable, grounded, or more able to enjoy the day with one. Weddings are emotional experiences, not curated guest lists—comfort should always come first.” – Elle Wildhagen, photographer

 

“Plus-ones always depend on your relationships, but as a rule of thumb, I would extend the plus-one to anyone exclusively dating over a year whose significant other you have met at least twice. If you’ve met them once and liked them, invite them! If you haven’t met them but your friend is totally in love, invite them!” – Lily Kaizer, vintage bridal expert

 

When is it appropriate to reach out about RSVPs? How can I ensure that my guests RSVP so I don’t have to pay extra for people who won’t show up?

“It’s perfectly appropriate to follow up with anyone who hasn’t responded, either personally or with a gentle reminder. Most guests simply need a nudge.” – Augusta Cole, planner 

 

“As your RSVP deadline approaches, follow up directly and gently remind them that if they don’t respond, you will take that as confirmation that they will not attend rather than an assumption that they will.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner

 

Final piece of advice

Before we close, we asked each expert to share one final piece of advice for engaged couples—something they wish every client knew.

What’s one piece of advice you’d give to couples during the wedding planning process?

“Establishing a firm guest list and event weekend budget is the most important first step! It’s critical to address these two points before making any other commitments, like venue, photographer, band, etc.” – Augusta Cole, planner

 

“Enjoy it! Also, have help—be it a professional planner, a trusted family member, or a friend, you will need cheerleaders and supporters who can help you with little tasks so you don’t get overwhelmed.” – Chenai Bukutu, planner

 

“Focus on what you love, and trust the professionals you’ve hired to bring the design together beautifully.” – Molly Ford, florist 

 

“Be open-minded, keep open communication, and focus on what will make your wedding special for each of you. Keep it fun and stay true to yourselves!” – Monique Lhuillier, bridal designer 

 

“Savor this time. Remember, the logistics, the family dynamics—none of it is important. The goal is a great marriage. Nothing about the wedding should make you lose sight of that.” – Bronson van Wyck, planner 

 

Bringing it all together 

With all of these considerations in mind, it’s clear that thoughtful weddings aren’t built from one big decision, but from many small, intentional ones. With Paperless Post, planning your wedding is all about bringing your vision to life and enjoying every moment along the way. 

Browse invitations from renowned designers (including Monique Lhuillier) or create something completely custom with our Personal Design Services team. Share all the details your guests need on your event page, from travel and accommodations to your wedding schedule and wedding party introductions, and keep everything organized with RSVP tracking, reminders, and guest communication tools. 

From save the dates to invitations to thank you notes, Paperless Post helps you handle the practical stuff so you can focus on what really matters: celebrating your big day, your way.

Let the celebrating begin!