14 ideas for bar and bat mitzvah invitation wording

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If you’ve spent the last year or so carefully planning for your child’s upcoming bar or bat mitzvah, you know how important it will be to have all of your loved ones there in one place. No matter the size, theme, or location of your celebration, it’s important to send out B-mitzvah invitations that honor tradition and keep guests informed, especially if some aren’t familiar with the haimish occasion.

Looking for a way to truly pay homage to this important rite of passage and celebrate your child’s call to the Torah? Paperless Post’s customizable bat and bar mitzvah invitations and B-mitzvah invitation wording examples for every type of family will help you get the job done.

An invitation with a border of abstract curvy shapes in shades of blue with a small Star of David and event details labeled.
Groove” by Paperless Post.

What do you write on a bat or bar mitzvah invitation?

Much like any other party invitation, bat and bar mitzvah party invitations should share key details about the day, including:

  • The child’s name: Make their name stand out with a large, eye-catching font. Include their middle name, too—especially if it holds special significance.
  • The child’s Hebrew name: Save space for your child’s Hebrew name as well. Paperless Post also allows you to add include bar mitzvah invitation wording in Hebrew lettering.
  • Ceremony information: Share the date, time, and location where the Torah reading will take place. Consider adding more details about where to park and what to expect at the event. (We suggest adding these details in Blocks below the actual invitation.)
  • Reception information: If you plan to continue the bar or bat mitzvah celebration at another location, include the event’s specific start time and address. If you’re only inviting close family and friends to the after-party, consider sending out two versions of the invitations to avoid any confusion or misunderstanding.
  • Dress code: Whether you’re going formal, fancy, or fun, it’s helpful to include a dress code in your invitations to inform your guests of any need-to-know attire requirements, particularly if they’re non-Jewish. 
  • RSVP request: You’ll most likely need to inform your venue and catering service of the number of guests attending the celebration. Include a specific RSVP-by date when you send out your invitation which is three to four weeks before the event. This will give both you and your guests time to plan.
  • Etiquette: If you’re inviting guests who aren’t Jewish, add important details about bar or bat mitzvah etiquette. Guests should know whether they’re expected to take a yarmulke, for example, and that they shouldn’t take pictures during the ceremony.
A horizontal invitation with ‘Marjorie’s bat mitzvah’ in blue script and gold block letters; a navy save the date card with a white tallit design.
New Classic” and “Striped Tallit” by Paperless Post.

What to include on bat and bar mitzvah save the dates

A bar or bat mitzvah save the date serves as the event’s official announcement. Typically, save the dates go out two to three months before the event—and even earlier if many guests are coming from out of town. 

You don’t need to know every detail of the bar or bat mitzvah before you send the save the dates. All you do need to include is the date, the child’s name, the location of the ceremony, and a link to a gift registry—if it’s ready.

1. Bat mitzvah save the date wording

When writing a bat mitzvah save the date, keep your wording clear and concise. Consider sending a beautiful save the date like Striped Tallit by Paperless Post with a message like:


Save the date for

Marjorie’s bat mitzvah!

Hosted by Daisy and Moses Herzog 

Saturday, December 4

Hillwood Temple

512 N. Ridge Road

Chicago, IL


An online invite with a photo of a teenage boy and the words ‘save the date’ animating.
Banner Photo” Flyer by Paperless Post.

2. Bar mitzvah save the date wording

Announce your son’s big day with a save-the-date notice that’s virtually flawless. Use a photo-centric Flyer like the “Banner Photo” with this wording:


We hope to see you at Justin’s upcoming bar mitzvah!

Hosted by Heidi and Mitch Adler

Saturday, December 4, 2:00 p.m.

Hillwood Temple 

512 N. Ridge Rd.


A square invitation with a large pink Star of David design; an invitation with an abstract blue border and a small gold Star of David.
Brushstroke Star” and “Tekhelet” by Paperless Post.

Bat mitzvah invitation wording

When informing guests of your daughter’s bat mitzvah, let the theme, formality, and location of the event inform your bat mitzvah invitation design and wording.

3. Invitation wording for a bat mitzvah at a temple

Invite friends and family to your synagogue with straightforward language like the example below, and a show-stopping invitation like “Mitzvah Lighting.”


With much gratitude and joy,

Daisy and Moses Herzog invite you to join us

to celebrate as our daughter



is called to the Torah

as a Bat Mitzvah.

Saturday, December 17th at 10 a.m.

Temple B’nai B’rith

for both the service and celebration.

408 Wyoming Ave.

Kingston, PA

RSVP by November 1 to let us know whether you will be joining or are unable to attend the event. Please note any dietary requirements.


4. Invitation wording for a bat mitzvah with a hotel reception

If you’re hosting a hotel bat mitzvah reception for your adult-to-be, add a bit of refinement by sending the “Sprawling Script” invitation by Sugar Paper with fanciful and informative language like:


Please join

Mr. and Mrs. Arnold Morgenstern

for the bat mitzvah of their daughter



Saturday, May 12th at 11 a.m.

Temple B’nai B’rith

Celebration at 8 p.m. at The Waldorf Astoria

Please Reply


5. Invitation wording for a bat mitzvah at home

Whether you’re hosting a casual backyard get-together—complete with Star of David–shaped cookies and home-cooked latkes—or a fancy ceremony and dinner party of feast-worthy proportions, you can welcome family and friends to your home with the charming “Neon Bat Mitzvah” photo invitation and wording like:


We invite our close friends and family 

to our home on May 18th

at 1 p.m.

to celebrate our daughter, 

Talia Jane,

as she’s called to the Torah.

Both the ceremony and reception will be held

at 123 Homely Street Lane


Please RSVP by May 1


6. B’not mitzvah invitation wording

When celebrating more than one B-mitzvah, the “Mitzvah Marquee” invitation gives both children a hint of glamour and sophistication, especially with wording like:


We celebrate today as 

traditions of the past

are shared for the future.

Please join us for Marjorie and Sarah’s

b’not mitzvah 

on December 17th at 10 a.m. 

The ceremony will be held at Temple B’nai B’rith

followed by a reception at The Plaza.

Please RSVP and dress in your grandest attire.


An invitation with a blue tile border and abstract Stars of David; a blue invitation with a white Torah scroll.
Styled Tiles” and “Gold Scroll” by Paperless Post.

Bar mitzvah invitation wording

If you’re the parent of a soon-to-be man, you’ll want his bar mitzvah invitations to reflect him and his day. In addition to the necessary information, like date, location, and time, you can add a bit of your son’s personality to the invitation. To get it just right, try one of these bar mitzvah invitation wording examples.

7. Bar mitzvah formal invitation wording

If you’re opting for a traditional suit-and-tie dress code for your son’s bar mitzvah, choose a classic invitation like the regal “Flourish 2” by Bernard Maisner and language that reigns supreme.


Mr. and Mrs. Isaac Disraeli

request the honor of your attendance

to celebrate as



is called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah.

Saturday, the eighth of January

at nine o’clock in the morning

Temple B’nai B’rith


Celebrate after the ceremony with us

at eight o’clock in the evening

28 St. James Street

RSVP by December 5


8. Bar mitzvah semi-formal invitation wording

A semi-formal celebration calls for cocktail hour-level elegance—without the stuffy ties. In that case, opt for the “Momentous” invitation and more casual wording that’s just as approachable as your party-to-be.


It’s time for a Bar Mitzvah!

Join Daisy and Moses Herzog

in celebrating their son




Saturday, August 30th at 10:00 a.m.

Temple B’nai B’rith

28 St. James Street  | Please Reply


9. Bar mitzvah modern invitation wording

If you’re throwing a modern B-mitzvah, choose a fun invitation like “Lucky Number” by kate spade new york paired with wording like:

Seymour’s becoming

a Bar Mitzvah!

Join the Levovs as they

celebrate his call to the Torah.

May 12 at 10 a.m.

Temple B’nai Shalom

Party at 7 p.m.

402 Maple Avenue


Please Reply 


10. B’nai mitzvah invitation wording

Whether you’re planning for twins or a close set of best friends, a B’nai is double the fun. Give your guests a sneak peek of the festivities with the Modern Fireworks” Flyer to ignite interest and hearts. The simple, yet captivating design works perfectly with language like:


Join us for a b’nai mitzvah

hosted by Yael and David Antonoff.

We would love to celebrate with you

as our sons

Joseph and Justin

are called to the Torah! 

Friday, March 26

1:00 p.m.

Hillwood Temple 

512 N. Ridge Rd.


An animated online invite with a blue Star of David and matching confetti.
Confetti Star” Flyer by Paperless Post.

Other types of B-mitzvah invitations

No two thirteen-year-olds are the same, so their celebrations shouldn’t be the same, either. If you’re planning a specific type of bar or bat mitzvah—from truly traditional to virtual to an option for divorced parents—look for wording ideas here.

11. Traditional bat and bar mitzvah party invitation wording

Remind guests of the meaning behind such a sacred and celebrated tradition with the “Blue Marble” invitation by Oscar de la Renta. Use traditional wording like:


With gratitude to Hashem,

Daisy & Moses Herzog

invite you to celebrate

the bat mitzvah of

Marjorie Marie


Sunday, June 6

12:30 to 3:30 p.m.


Marjorie’s Home


12. Bar and bat mitzvah invitation wording for divorced parents

If the adult-to-be’s parents are divorced, nothing about the invitation needs to change. Simply add everyone’s names—including stepparents, if applicable—and put the child front and center with the “Brushstroke Star” photo invitation and wording like:


Ira and Sandra Stone


Nancy and Ben Montgomery

invite you to celebrate their daughter



as she becomes a bat mitzvah 

on the wonderful day of August 5th.

Following a ceremony at Temple B’nai B’rith,

we will hold a celebration at Posh-Plus Resort

2112 Market St. 

Festivities begin at 3 p.m. and continue at the venue at 6 p.m.

Please RSVP as soon as possible!


13. Virtual bat and bar mitzvah invitation wording

A virtual B-mitzvah allows friends and family members to look on as your child reads their first words from the Torah. You can even celebrate after the ceremony with a virtual happy hour. Complement the virtual occasion with the “Gold Connection” invitation and wording like:


Daisy and Moses Herzog

cordially invite you to the online celebration 

of our daughter Marjorie 

as she’s called to the Torah! 

Please stay after the reading for an online celebration. 

Sunday, June 6

1:00 p.m. EST

Follow the link to attend! 


14. B-mitzvah invitation wording for an open house

For B-mitzvah celebrations without a start or end time, invite guests to an open-house reception. Send the Confetti Star” Flyer and let everyone know when they can stop by.

Celebrate Rebekah’s B-mitzvah

with an open-house reception at our home,

hosted by Heidi and Mitch Adler.

Saturday, April 3

Stop by between 2 to 6 p.m.

5 Republic St.

Cincinnati, OH


An invitation with a geometric gold and light blue pattern border; an example of Guest Tags in use.
Gold Grid” by Paperless Post.

How far in advance do you send B-mitzvah invitations?

If you’re sending paper invitations, order your bar or bat mitzvah invitations about three to four months before the event. Once the invitations arrive in the mail, you’ll want to send them out to guests no later than one month before the event.

However, if you’re sending digital invitations with Paperless Post, you can design and send them on the same day—or schedule to send them a month in advance. Customize your chosen invitation template and send it via email, text, or shareable link, with the choice of a custom URL to easily link guests back to your invitation page.

Don’t forget to include Guest Surveys so you can gather guests’ dietary restrictions, upload pictures to a Photo Gallery Block so people can see moments from your child’s life so far, and make custom Guest Tags to organize attendees by table or relation so you have less to worry about on the big event day.

Paperless Post: hand-crafted invites for your child’s special day

Whether it’s a bat mitzvah, a bar mitzvah, or a b’nai celebration, this time in your child’s life marks a momentous occasion deserving of purposeful planning and attention. Each invitation you craft should be just as unique as your cherished adult-to-be.

Paperless Post can help you achieve just that. Our collection of bat and bar mitzvah invitations features a variety of designs that are guaranteed to match your vision. After you choose your design and add the perfect bar or bat mitzvah party invitation wording, browse these bat and bar mitzvah ideas to help you celebrate with friends and family in style. Mazel tov!


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