If you’ve spent the last year or so carefully planning for your child’s upcoming bar or bat mitzvah, you know how important it will be to have all of your loved ones there in one place. No matter the size, theme, or location of your celebration, it’s important to send out B-mitzvah invitations that honor tradition and keep guests informed, especially if some aren’t familiar with the haimish occasion.
Looking for a way to truly pay homage to this important rite of passage and celebrate your child’s call to the Torah? Paperless Post’s customizable bat and bar mitzvah invitations and B-mitzvah invitation wording examples for every type of family will help you get the job done.
What do you write on a bat or bar mitzvah invitation?
Much like any other party invitation, bat and bar mitzvah party invitations should share key details about the day, including:
- The child’s name: Make their name stand out with a large, eye-catching font. Include their middle name, too—especially if it holds special significance.
- The child’s Hebrew name: Save space for your child’s Hebrew name as well. Paperless Post also allows you to add include bar mitzvah invitation wording in Hebrew lettering.
- Ceremony information: Share the date, time, and location where the Torah reading will take place. Consider adding more details about where to park and what to expect at the event. (We suggest adding these details in Blocks below the actual invitation.)
- Reception information: If you plan to continue the bar or bat mitzvah celebration at another location, include the event’s specific start time and address. If you’re only inviting close family and friends to the after-party, consider sending out two versions of the invitations to avoid any confusion or misunderstanding.
- Dress code: Whether you’re going formal, fancy, or fun, it’s helpful to include a dress code in your invitations to inform your guests of any need-to-know attire requirements, particularly if they’re non-Jewish.
- RSVP request: You’ll most likely need to inform your venue and catering service of the number of guests attending the celebration. Include a specific RSVP-by date when you send out your invitation which is three to four weeks before the event. This will give both you and your guests time to plan.
- Etiquette: If you’re inviting guests who aren’t Jewish, add important details about bar or bat mitzvah etiquette. Guests should know whether they’re expected to take a yarmulke, for example, and that they shouldn’t take pictures during the ceremony.
What to include on bat and bar mitzvah save the dates
A bar or bat mitzvah save the date serves as the event’s official announcement. Typically, save the dates go out two to three months before the event—and even earlier if many guests are coming from out of town.
You don’t need to know every detail of the bar or bat mitzvah before you send the save the dates. All you do need to include is the date, the child’s name, the location of the ceremony, and a link to a gift registry—if it’s ready.
1. Bat mitzvah save the date wording
When writing a bat mitzvah save the date, keep your wording clear and concise. Consider sending a beautiful save the date like “Striped Tallit” by Paperless Post with a message like:
Save the date for
Marjorie’s bat mitzvah!
Hosted by Daisy and Moses Herzog
Saturday, December 4
512 N. Ridge Road
2. Bar mitzvah save the date wording
Announce your son’s big day with a save-the-date notice that’s virtually flawless. Use a photo-centric Flyer like the “Banner Photo” with this wording:
We hope to see you at Justin’s upcoming bar mitzvah!
Hosted by Heidi and Mitch Adler
Saturday, December 4, 2:00 p.m.
512 N. Ridge Rd.
Bat mitzvah invitation wording
When informing guests of your daughter’s bat mitzvah, let the theme, formality, and location of the event inform your bat mitzvah invitation design and wording.
3. Invitation wording for a bat mitzvah at a temple
Invite friends and family to your synagogue with straightforward language like the example below, and a show-stopping invitation like “Mitzvah Lighting.”
With much gratitude and joy,
Daisy and Moses Herzog invite you to join us
to celebrate as our daughter
is called to the Torah
as a Bat Mitzvah.
Saturday, December 17th at 10 a.m.
Temple B’nai B’rith
for both the service and celebration.
408 Wyoming Ave.
RSVP by November 1 to let us know whether you will be joining or are unable to attend the event. Please note any dietary requirements.
4. Invitation wording for a bat mitzvah with a hotel reception
If you’re hosting a hotel bat mitzvah reception for your adult-to-be, add a bit of refinement by sending the “Sprawling Script” invitation by Sugar Paper with fanciful and informative language like:
Mr. and Mrs. Arnold Morgenstern
for the bat mitzvah of their daughter
Saturday, May 12th at 11 a.m.
Temple B’nai B’rith
Celebration at 8 p.m. at The Waldorf Astoria
5. Invitation wording for a bat mitzvah at home
Whether you’re hosting a casual backyard get-together—complete with Star of David–shaped cookies and home-cooked latkes—or a fancy ceremony and dinner party of feast-worthy proportions, you can welcome family and friends to your home with the charming “Neon Bat Mitzvah” photo invitation and wording like:
We invite our close friends and family
to our home on May 18th
at 1 p.m.
to celebrate our daughter,
as she’s called to the Torah.
Both the ceremony and reception will be held
at 123 Homely Street Lane
Please RSVP by May 1
6. B’not mitzvah invitation wording
When celebrating more than one B-mitzvah, the “Mitzvah Marquee” invitation gives both children a hint of glamour and sophistication, especially with wording like:
We celebrate today as
traditions of the past
are shared for the future.
Please join us for Marjorie and Sarah’s
on December 17th at 10 a.m.
The ceremony will be held at Temple B’nai B’rith
followed by a reception at The Plaza.
Please RSVP and dress in your grandest attire.
Bar mitzvah invitation wording
If you’re the parent of a soon-to-be man, you’ll want his bar mitzvah invitations to reflect him and his day. In addition to the necessary information, like date, location, and time, you can add a bit of your son’s personality to the invitation. To get it just right, try one of these bar mitzvah invitation wording examples.
7. Bar mitzvah formal invitation wording
If you’re opting for a traditional suit-and-tie dress code for your son’s bar mitzvah, choose a classic invitation like the regal “Flourish 2” by Bernard Maisner and language that reigns supreme.
Mr. and Mrs. Isaac Disraeli
request the honor of your attendance
to celebrate as
is called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah.
Saturday, the eighth of January
at nine o’clock in the morning
Temple B’nai B’rith
Celebrate after the ceremony with us
at eight o’clock in the evening
28 St. James Street
RSVP by December 5
8. Bar mitzvah semi-formal invitation wording
A semi-formal celebration calls for cocktail hour-level elegance—without the stuffy ties. In that case, opt for the “Momentous” invitation and more casual wording that’s just as approachable as your party-to-be.
It’s time for a Bar Mitzvah!
Join Daisy and Moses Herzog
in celebrating their son
Saturday, August 30th at 10:00 a.m.
Temple B’nai B’rith
28 St. James Street | Please Reply
9. Bar mitzvah modern invitation wording
If you’re throwing a modern B-mitzvah, choose a fun invitation like “Lucky Number” by kate spade new york paired with wording like:
a Bar Mitzvah!
Join the Levovs as they
celebrate his call to the Torah.
May 12 at 10 a.m.
Temple B’nai Shalom
Party at 7 p.m.
402 Maple Avenue
10. B’nai mitzvah invitation wording
Whether you’re planning for twins or a close set of best friends, a B’nai is double the fun. Give your guests a sneak peek of the festivities with the “Modern Fireworks” Flyer to ignite interest and hearts. The simple, yet captivating design works perfectly with language like:
Join us for a b’nai mitzvah
hosted by Yael and David Antonoff.
We would love to celebrate with you
as our sons
Joseph and Justin
are called to the Torah!
Friday, March 26
512 N. Ridge Rd.
Other types of B-mitzvah invitations
No two thirteen-year-olds are the same, so their celebrations shouldn’t be the same, either. If you’re planning a specific type of bar or bat mitzvah—from truly traditional to virtual to an option for divorced parents—look for wording ideas here.
11. Traditional bat and bar mitzvah party invitation wording
Remind guests of the meaning behind such a sacred and celebrated tradition with the “Blue Marble” invitation by Oscar de la Renta. Use traditional wording like:
With gratitude to Hashem,
Daisy & Moses Herzog
invite you to celebrate
the bat mitzvah of
Sunday, June 6
12:30 to 3:30 p.m.
12. Bar and bat mitzvah invitation wording for divorced parents
If the adult-to-be’s parents are divorced, nothing about the invitation needs to change. Simply add everyone’s names—including stepparents, if applicable—and put the child front and center with the “Brushstroke Star” photo invitation and wording like:
Ira and Sandra Stone
Nancy and Ben Montgomery
invite you to celebrate their daughter
as she becomes a bat mitzvah
on the wonderful day of August 5th.
Following a ceremony at Temple B’nai B’rith,
we will hold a celebration at Posh-Plus Resort
2112 Market St.
Festivities begin at 3 p.m. and continue at the venue at 6 p.m.
Please RSVP as soon as possible!
13. Virtual bat and bar mitzvah invitation wording
A virtual B-mitzvah allows friends and family members to look on as your child reads their first words from the Torah. You can even celebrate after the ceremony with a virtual happy hour. Complement the virtual occasion with the “Gold Connection” invitation and wording like:
Daisy and Moses Herzog
cordially invite you to the online celebration
of our daughter Marjorie
as she’s called to the Torah!
Please stay after the reading for an online celebration.
Sunday, June 6
1:00 p.m. EST
Follow the link to attend!
14. B-mitzvah invitation wording for an open house
For B-mitzvah celebrations without a start or end time, invite guests to an open-house reception. Send the “Confetti Star” Flyer and let everyone know when they can stop by.
Celebrate Rebekah’s B-mitzvah
with an open-house reception at our home,
hosted by Heidi and Mitch Adler.
Saturday, April 3
Stop by between 2 to 6 p.m.
5 Republic St.
How far in advance do you send B-mitzvah invitations?
If you’re sending paper invitations, order your bar or bat mitzvah invitations about three to four months before the event. Once the invitations arrive in the mail, you’ll want to send them out to guests no later than one month before the event.
However, if you’re sending digital invitations with Paperless Post, you can design and send them on the same day—or schedule to send them a month in advance. Customize your chosen invitation template and send it via email, text, or shareable link, with the choice of a custom URL to easily link guests back to your invitation page.
Don’t forget to include Guest Surveys so you can gather guests’ dietary restrictions, upload pictures to a Photo Gallery Block so people can see moments from your child’s life so far, and make custom Guest Tags to organize attendees by table or relation so you have less to worry about on the big event day.
Paperless Post: hand-crafted invites for your child’s special day
Whether it’s a bat mitzvah, a bar mitzvah, or a b’nai celebration, this time in your child’s life marks a momentous occasion deserving of purposeful planning and attention. Each invitation you craft should be just as unique as your cherished adult-to-be.
Paperless Post can help you achieve just that. Our collection of bat and bar mitzvah invitations features a variety of designs that are guaranteed to match your vision. After you choose your design and add the perfect bar or bat mitzvah party invitation wording, browse these bat and bar mitzvah ideas to help you celebrate with friends and family in style. Mazel tov!